Are Clothes the Only Problem?

Looking at the site and the past posts I realized that we're not looking at the whole picture. Lack of clothes is not the only issue, it has to do with the intentions of the person and what is in their heart. One of the readers posted this link for a very helpful website last week you should check it out I found it to be very full of information. http://www.therebelution.com/modestysurvey/
That information answers a lot of the questions brought up in the past post with real information from real people. But we shouldn't only be worried about the clothes its the way we as women view ourselves and what our intentions are. Do you want a guy who loves you for your mind or likes you for your figure? What do you think? Is flirting wrong? Does it depend on the intentions of the flirting? How does that work, think of it also in the perspective of the guys and the way they would interpret it. Another thought that was brought up to me was "what if the guy is a Christian it shouldn't matter what I'm wearing, he should be able to control himself" I disagree I think its our job as women to take care of our guys and not put them in that situation, but I want to know what you think...